25 February 2008

A Rat After My Own Heart

You have to love the ornateness of the rat depicted on this year's Canadian stamp to honour Chinese New Year. I personally appreciate that it is carrying both a little purse and a parasol.

Here, too, is Canada Post's own photo of the new stamp.
Note to self: buy more accessories!

13 February 2008

Deuil

It has always seemed a little strange to me to think of mourning the loss of something that is not actually dead. I have found myself doing that on so many occasions over the last ten years of living with AIDS that you would think I would be getting used to it by now. No such luck.


After a whole lot of time, energy and even money invested in getting there, I resigned from the Bar in 2001. That was one of the most difficult decisions I have ever made, but it was really the only choice I had at the time. I was working where I am now, in a community organization, not earning a whole lot of money and not particularly using my status as a member of the Bar in my work. In my previous community job, I had at least needed the status for one of my tasks — teaching people how to prepare their own non-contested divorces — and even did some of that for people as clients. But when I got to where I am now, I was not even doing that, and it became difficult to swallow the cost of remaining a member of the bar (up to $1,000 in fees each year, and always the possibility that the compulsory insurance would again resume costing that much as well). I resigned in order to preserve the possibility that I could regain the status, but I know it is really gone.


Imagine being in your early forties and being unable to open one of the paper clips pictured above because of the severity of the arthritis in your hands. According to a neurologist I consulted recently (regarding carpal tunnel syndrome), there's a strange confluence of factors at work. If my HIV meds weren't working, I wouldn't have such a problem with my psoriatic arthritis, which contributes to the effect of the carpal tunnel syndrome. Ah, what to mourn?


A few years ago, another such confluence of factors, combined with a degree of vanity and some harshness and self-doubt on my part, contributed to the loss of most of my social life (and my sex life). Factors? Quit smoking, got less active, aged (slowing my metabolism) and arrived at the end of more than seven years of taking a combination of HIV medications that people don't tend to prescribe anymore. Result? Gained about 60 pounds, became extremely self-conscious and unhappy about my body and began isolating myself rather than braving the reactions of others (or my perceptions of them).


A few weeks ago, the nipple I had pierced many years ago, and in which I have always had either a ring or a bar, became seriously infected. This to the point where I became worried about the long-term impact of the infection. So I did that thing that I hadn't pictured myself doing: removed the ring and decided to let go of the piercing. That might seem trivial in relation to some of the other things I have given up, but it was as much a part of my whole identity as many other things. It had been a part of me for a good fifteen years. And now it's gone.

This brings me to my latest loss. I had been trying to work on some problems with the help of a psychologist, trying to get past how I feel about myself and trying to get past what has been stopping me from doing something about it (the content of this is probably enough for its own post, so I won't elaborate much here). My plans went off the rails and I found myself unable to even meet the minimal goals I had set for myself. The pressure I was putting on myself and my own disappointment in not reaching goals I set for myself was becoming more of a problem for me, bringing me down rather than helping me solve problems. I decided that I wasn't ready for this counselling and ended it, at least for now.

Now my challenge will be to see whether I can move forward on my own, or get to the place where I'm ready for some help.

11 February 2008

Highbrow

I'm not sure that I have mentioned this before, but I entered a contest online last fall and actually won season tickets to the Opéra de Montréal. This has been a very lovely prize to win — something that I would probably not have been able to experience without this windfall. (Just to reassure the Opéra de Montréal, I should add that I have so enjoyed myself to date that I am very likely to go next year even without free tickets!)


This past Saturday was the Barber of Seville. It was certainly interesting to go to an opera having been familiarized with the music by that unforgettable episode of Bugs Bunny, "The Rabbit of Seville." In fact, every moment of the overture was familiar, and the section where Bugs and Elmer Fudd chase each other back and forth with ever larger knives and axes was found further into the production.

Now I should point out, for the uninitiated, that the Bugs Bunny storyline doesn't follow the original at all. I guess that will not be much of a surprise. What will be a surprise is that I found the opera to be way funnier than the cartoon. The whole audience was killing itself laughing at all the appropriate moments and the cast had excellent comic timing throughout. If I didn't know better, I would have sworn that the part of Bartolo's manservant had been played by Tim Conway.


I'm very much looking forward to my remaining two experiences this season.

07 February 2008

Year of the Rat

Happy Chinese New Year! We are now entering the Year of the Rat — Earth Rat, if my sources are correct.

In honour of this occasion, and a pot luck dinner meeting between my Board and Staff at work, I made my contributions thematic and I must say that I am most pleased with them indeed.


Whole Wheat French Rat Bread, pre-cooking view

Black Russian Rat Bread, pre-cooking view

All the rat breads fresh from the oven

The Rat-er-torte (a sachertorte)

And, to top it all off, Rat happens to be my sign. I guess that makes me…twenty-four! ;-)